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You've Got Media's avatar

Thanks for being so open with this. Great writing!

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Tid_Talks's avatar

:) means a lot to me :) thank you for reading it

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Teresa Song's avatar

Hey Tid, this article really hits me hard! I too have had a very similar journey and recognise a lot of the things you mentioned. I haven't read Granted, but I read Give & Take (Adam Grant) and it gave me some hope. As a giver, I always feel like I'm at a loss or on the back foot. I also reflect and think, I really should give less, so then I adjust my natural state of being a giver, to give less and then feel unhappy because I am not being my authentic self. Does this make sense? Through my 30s, I'm definitely learning a lot more about myself, through self-acceptance and having more boundaries that I am being much more selective about who and how I give. I find myself more and more surrounded by beautiful friends and family who appreciate it. Sending hugs from London

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Tid_Talks's avatar

Dear Teresa,

Firstly it gives me immense joy to see that my piece has resonated with you. As much as I do enjoy writing, it’s scary coz in every piece I expose a piece of me. This exposure leaves me feeling very vulnerable. But I always tell myself that if there’s someone who finds some solace reading my works then this vulnerability is worth it. London is very close to my heart and is special for so many reasons.

And to answer your question yes, I totally empathise. You be you, the world will adjust. I think the only reason I believe in love is because of the way I love. :) So if say give but maybe give yourself as well. :) 🫶🏻💫

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Sean Mize's avatar

thank you for sharing

I had no idea one could give too much

but I learned a few months ago and it has transformed my world

realizing that I wasnt' crazy for feeling like I could give no more, even though they wanted more and more

and now to see clearly the path out :-)

thanks for writing and letting me feel !

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Tid_Talks's avatar

OH Sean, I’ve learnt the hard way that trying to pour from an empty cup left my cup ultimately broken.

But healing slowly very slowly but surely,

Thank you Sean for reading my piece and it means a lot

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Tid_Talks's avatar

Thank you so so much. Absolutely true. I’ve learnt the hard way that one cannot pour from an empty cup.

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Tid_Talks's avatar

:))) I’ll revisit this every time I feel empty and drained :) thank you for this. You’re a beautiful soul.

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